February 11, 2009
@ 04:00
What will you do to find out if your crush is into you?
Finding out if my crush is into me, is just like the Guess-The-Color game whereby they have 4 colors in their covered row, and you start guessing from a few rows away. Hints would be given at the side with white and black colors whereby white represents correct color but wrong position while black represents correct color and correct position.
I’d very much like to find out whether or not my crush is into me. Below are some of the methods which I’d use.
1) Praise and listen
In this method, I’d praise my crush and look at the replies which he’d give. For example, I’ll try saying that his clothes were very matching and it made him look most distinctive and charming even from the crowd.
These would be the type of replies that I’d expect and take note of, which would help made the conclusion more accurate:
“Really? Thanks.” (And the conversation ends) – He is cold towards you. What you say probably doesn’t mean anything to him even if your mouth dried up after praising him.
“Oh…You’re looking gorgeous too! Are you here alone tonight?” (He smiles and the conversation carry on) – He is somewhat interested to chat a little more. Nonetheless, it does not finalizes the conclusion that he’s into you because he might be talking to you just because he has nothing else to do. Unless you know that he set aside time and rejected other girls’ company just to talk to you… (Then you might stand a chance!)
2) Be patient
This is where you have to control your urge to talk to him, to see him and things like that. You can’t let him know that you have a crush on him because he might just be frightened off by your craziness towards him! However, wait and see if he’s taking initiatives to talk to you. Following are the several reactions which you might expect…
· He takes initiative and approaches you about non-work subjects (E.g. ask you out for lunches, ask you what have you been doing and would like to join you, asks about your opinion about his activities) – There is a possibility that he’s into you, but again, be patient. He might be asking you because you’re his close friend, and that he just wants advices. Or rather, he might be greeting and caring as a friend.
· He greets you and there’s no talk beyond serious subjects like work, school, football. – He may have no interest in you because you are not of his concern or interest at all. Nonetheless, wait for the verdict, it’s not time yet.
3) Ask and you will be given
Now that you have established a connection to make known your presence, and waited for his reply, it’s your turn to ask. Initiate to ask him out. Try to make the date just for the 2 of you. For a start, you can try meeting up to talk or explore about an interest or hobby (E.g. golf, movie, watch soccer match on flat screen together, play a game of tennis or badminton and etc.) And these might be some of the responses you’d get…
· He rejects you and prefers to stay at home – He’s either a lone ranger, attached, gay, busy with work or not interested in you.
· He agrees to meet up – He’s ok with the idea of going on a date with you, or just a meet up or hang out. It might also be because he’s trying to show off how good he is at the sport or how crazy he is. Then, it’s either the fact that he’s too full of himself, or that he’s just trying to attract your attention by being good at the things he does.
· He agrees to meet up but did not turn up – You’re not important or important enough to him. Try asking again or hint him to ask you out instead, as amendment to the failure to turn up. Also, if he was feeling down, take the opportunity to comfort him, let him know that you’re there for him.
If all else fails to get his attention, try the last method.
4) Confession!
Tell him straight that you have had a crush on him, but don’t tell him how long because he might reject you because he thinks your feelings are not strong enough, not a valid enough reason for him to commit to you. Tell him that you’d like to date him, trying doesn’t harm anyone.
However, bear in mind that the miles you go for him, is the extent of how much you want him. After all, to some people, loving doesn’t mean possessing.
By now, you would have been in and out of love all by yourself because you have been experiencing a lot from dealing with his reactions. Give yourself a break by sitting down quietly and thinking through his reactions.
For me, I would have know that if all the while, his reactions have not been very enthusiastic, have not been very responsive, I have 2 choices.
1) Give him some time.
2) Forget him. How long can a crush last?
If his reactions had been very enthusiastic, then there is room for improvement in the relationship between the two of us. Then again, I have 2 choices.
1) Go over the methods as he gets hooked onto me.
2) Confess and leave the decision to him. After all, you’re still a girl.
All in all, don’t take it too hard. Some guys are not very committed. They fall for you very easily, they’d probably fall for OTHERS very easily too! Also, success in relationship isn’t a one day thing. If my crush doesn’t have any feelings for me, then it’s either I be happy for him, understand the meaning of all that he’s said and respect his decision OR I move on to the next crush!!